Since I got married I had known no happiness in my marriage … I want peace of mind.

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Am 32 married for 8 years with two kids. Ever since I got married I had known no happiness in ma marriage cos it from one problem to anoda. Just of recent I realised that I that to leave ma hubby cos I was asked to marry him and secondly I found out that I dnt love him in d 2nd year of the marriage but ma mum insist I shd not leave and yet an (I wasn’t enjoying the marriage) becos ma hubby made to understand that I had to carry more responsibilities in the house cos I had a higher paying job which I did bt any time am broke n I ask him to give me to buy one thing or the other. His reply is that his he the one that is suppose to give me or that he doesn’t ve dt kind of to give. There are a times when he from me he won’t make attempt to return though I don’t ve it in mind to collect it back. The funniest thing is that if I from him in the morning before the close of the day he would be asking back his that he needs . I can’t begin to list many others. I have complained to him so many times but instead of him to adjust, he rather turn it into a fight. I dnt want my life to be shortened. Each day I close from and I remembered am going home am not always happy. Am confused because I don’t love him any more so what I did was to like a kind of setting myself up in order to break up with him and thank God it went as I planned. That the only way I ve because him and my mum wont let go. I want peace of mind and nothing.

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  1. Abdulrahman hawau

    Jul 16, 2013 at 2:58 pm

    My dear sis u ave 2 stick 2 ur mother advise bcose she is d 1 dat knw wat she sees b4 she insisted dat u most marry him.u ave 2 keep praying 2 God 2 b providing 4 u nd take gud care of ur kids

  2. Aimuyedo osayomore

    Jul 16, 2013 at 6:59 pm

    On ur own u have tried but u could nt do it,i strongly believe and i recommend u turn it over 2 Jesus and u will find peace and enjoy ur marriage.stay in ur marriage God will change him and make u 2 love him again.running away is not d solution.

  3. Uche joel

    Aug 19, 2013 at 10:29 pm

    Sister al u need is Jesus go close 2him pray 4ur man4ur childrn n ur self i tel u dat change wil come becos is only God dat meks maregs 2work,d devil never want u 2be hapy n if u make a mistake 2liv d house ur life wil nevr be disame,just waitl4 God,Psalm46v10,god bless u.

  4. oke tosin

    Aug 20, 2013 at 11:52 am

    pls dnt leave ur kids lyk dat jst bear with him
    God will change him 4 u
    and change him for Good

  5. ade

    Aug 23, 2013 at 1:09 pm

    from what i get in your post it seems the major issue you are having with your husband is the issue of finance. since both of you are working, one way you can settle this is to stop giving your husband money when ever he asks for, and try to stop asking for money from him on regular occasions.
    One way you guys can solve the money problem is to put your salaries together at the end of each month and set aside money for different things. Open a joint account that needs both of your signatories for saving on things like investments towards buying something both of you will need such as a car or a hours. secondly, set aside money for the up kip of the children. this should be in your account thirdly set aside money for the upkip of the house such as food stuff, washing stuff e.t.c. (also in your account). lastly set money aside for your own upkip. yours should be in your account while that of your husband should be in his. this way you guys have money to do stuffs for your selves, the kids and the house as well as have some savings for the future. doing it this way will make you guys manage your money effectively.
    For every other issue you are having with your husband i believe its what you can both work on. it takes communication, and understanding. you guys should try and talk about it "together" and work on it "together". dont just complain randomly to him or anyother person. sit down and make him understand your feelings about certain situations. if possible you can see a marriage counselor, in the church, professional or someone you both trust and value their opinion.

    leaving should be your very last resort. if you have tried every other thing(which i know you haven't) then you can think about that. for now just focus on how you can make your marriage work try to regain that love you once had for your husband and remember why you fell in love with him on the first place.
    Good luck.
    Ade

    PS: sorry for the long email.
    it was also difficult reading your post because of the grammatical errors in them, please try and do something to improve on that.

  6. Bamz

    Aug 23, 2013 at 8:46 pm

    For d two dat r now one i personally appeal to both parties to make geniune effort at establishing peace n luv. Only den wil true peace b given frm above not as men giveth but d lord giveth unconditionally. Marriage is meant fr dose who r ready to work at all time to improve on dere faults, n luv in d appreciation of dere strength. Dont break up or else such may tink d resolution to peace is in dis-union! Finally, b at peace wit ur sef dat way u give what u have n receive same measure.

  7. chris jay

    Aug 23, 2013 at 9:08 pm

    Lady, let’s be realistic.1.) You never love the man right from the start. 2.) You didnt take time to go into courtship with the man to detect that he is a miser. 3.) You had listened to what people says rather than your heart. 4.) You failed to pray. 5.) Who knows whether the man had contributed to your success in one way or the other, he might have sacrificed somethings for you or your family, he might have been the lead to your good job. 6.) We have not really heard his own side of story to ascertain the reasons for his actions. Solution; listen to your heart, and pray earnestly for God’s leading.

  8. shemilore samuel

    Aug 29, 2013 at 9:10 am

    My sis pls in name of God stay in ur home,don’t go any where.almighty father we change him 4 u.

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    Sep 26, 2013 at 2:51 am

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